With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, what’s a more romantic topic to discuss than wedding vows? (Honestly one of the bride’s favorite planning moments, and the groom’s least favorite!)
One could argue that vows are THE MOST important part of your wedding ceremony. After all, this will be the part of the day where you promise to be together forever. Vows can be a little nerve-wracking though, especially with all of the day-of commotion, so it’s important to plan ahead and be confident about the route you select to take.
There are a few ways you can go. No way is the right way, but make sure you choose something that you’re both comfortable with.
- You could go traditional all of the way. Tried and true—nothing too fancy but still very sentimental.
- Find a more modern/unique version. It can be one that is true to who you are as a couple.
- Write your own and read them yourself out loud to each other. Make sure it’s not last minute, though!
- Write your own and have the officiant read it during the ceremony (just give it to them ahead of time).
- Find real vows published online by other couples that you can use. Don’t act like they are your own, though!
- Speak from the heart and in the moment. This can be a little bit harder because you’ll have no idea how you’re going to feel and could be very nervous, but it could be a beautiful and inspired moment.
My husband and I opted to find a more modern and unique version that we found online. It was important to me to have some traditional elements, but to still have a little bit of fun with it. We both KNEW that we didn’t even want to ATTEMPT to do our own because of emotions, and while I know that would have been more special, I think it would have been a lot more pressure on us. This way, we just had to speak after the pastor did, and we both still stuttered!
Here is what we both said:
“I take you to be my best friend, My faithful partner and my true
love. I promise to encourage you and inspire you and to love you truly
through good times and bad. I will forever be there to laugh with you,
to lift you up when you are down and to love you unconditionally
through all of our adventures in life together.”
I loved our vows and the sentiment shared on that day was so special.
Whatever way you go, don’t put too much pressure on yourself, and come back to what you know: how beautiful your relationship is and the joy that you’ll have together on this special day.
Brides, what are you planning? Wives, would you have changed anything about your vow selections?
Have a happy Valentine’s Day!
Girl with a diamond ring